Our thoughts are very powerful because they control our emotions, and our emotions lead to our behaviours, what we act on and how we react.
The things that you say to yourself can be the number one support tool you have to guide you towards your goals and dreams. When we don’t believe we can, we won’t.
Is how you talk to yourself helping you or holding you back?
Those things we think and say to ourselves manifest in our lives. Limiting beliefs are those things you believe about yourself that ultimately place limitations on your abilities. They are sub-conscious thoughts creeping in and telling you something that is ultimately not true.
For example, “bad things always happen to me”, “I’m no good at speaking to people”, “all my relationships are painful”, “I’d never make a good leader” or “I could never start my own business”.
Limiting beliefs are simply assumptions about your reality that come from your perceptions of life experiences . In order for our actions to have the greatest positive effect, we need to have beliefs that are as close to reality as possible. Deceiving ourselves with false realities and limiting beliefs could mean that we never fulfil our goals and dreams.
As a coach, I know that some clients will need a lot of support to change their beliefs and will need to challenge, encourage and support the client every step of the way as they are guided to the place where they can achieve their full potential and live the life that they love.
My job is to use a variety of techniques to raise your awareness of what your limiting beliefs are and where they come from. Through answering powerful questions, you will be able to see the truth for the first time. Once I have an indication of your limiting beliefs, I can help to address and change them. Often, even a temporary suspension of a limiting belief is enough of a step forward to unblock the mind in order to explore outside the boundaries imposed by limiting beliefs and move closer towards goals/dreams.
At a deeper level we can even discover what your core belief is that your limiting beliefs are built around.
The most common human limiting beliefs are:
1. fear of success
2. fear of failure
3. fear we are not good enough to achieve what we want
4. fear of not being loved/being unlovable
5. fear of rejection – generally leading you to avoid relationships or people please
6. having negative attributes assigned to being rich/having money: For example, rich people are…
7. fear of greatness
8. we don’t deserve/we are not worthy of success
9. we have to work very hard, long hours for our money
10. others hold me back.
Recognising any of these in your own thought process? How often do you hear yourself say “I should” “I have to” or “I can’t?”
It’s okay, it is likely to happen to all of us at some stage of our lives and careers. By taking the time to consider what you want to believe, you can choose your beliefs and values or sabotage you/your path to success.
Changing your belief system is one of the most important steps to take in achieving success.
Believe that you can and you will!
John Kenny Coaching